Marriage IS Parenting: Show them how to be a pro: Part 3 Indirect Parenting Demonstrating a good marriage is parenting just as much as direct nurturing and behavior correction. You might call it indirect parenting. How so, you might ask? Well, what is the general definition of parenting? Teaching children how to be a good adult. Being a good adult means many things (so many
Marriage IS Parenting: Show them how to be a pro: Part 2 Leveraging Healthy and Unhealthy Parenting Examples If you read Part 1 of this post, you know that personality type always throws a wild card into the mix. So now you have the wild card of your personality and the wild card of your child’s personality, which are often very different. Sometimes they are
The Personality Wild Card Someone once asked me, “How often do you fight with your spouse?” After almost 15 years of marriage, you’d think it would be easy, but I could not think of a single incident I would qualify as a fight. I’ve never yelled at my husband, and very rarely have I lobbed snide remarks. Sure, we’ve disagreed, maybe even argued, but our
We all have a special distaste for text books, until we find out we are one; our kids read the text book of our lives every day. I just recently became familiar with The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children, and while the example my parents demonstrated when I was growing up probably included some of the 5 tools and probably rubbed off on
I admit it. This seems crazy and a bit of an exaggeration: Researchers say that the average parent spends less than 30 seconds per day deeply listening to their children. Grandparents are somewhat better, but that statistic has got to send a shock wave of disbelief through all of us. Deep listening, the type of listening I’m talking about, means dropping everything and focusing your
The gifts I’m talking about can’t be bought for any price in any store. But these gifts are vital to giving our children a joyful and healthy future. Of course, I’m talking about the gifts of qualities and values like honesty, responsibility, self-reliance, compassion, a sense of humor, and self-esteem. These gifts are truly priceless.